Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts
Showing posts with label motherhood. Show all posts

3/24/16

Homeschooling; Evaluating What is Working



I took a month long break from blogging, while I had the wonderful This Girl Design create a new blog design for me. I am so excited about the cleaner design, and am excited about beginning to add some of my best conference sessions to the store, as well as developing several other resources for families. 

I have also been regularly contributing to the Wild and Free bundles, both through encouraging podcast conversations with amazing homeschool moms, and through articles and photography. If you homeschool, I would definitely recommend subscribing. It is consistently encouraging. You can also find lots of homeschool encouragement through their Instagram, and I do quite a bit of mini-blogging on Instagram as well.



Oh, and I still homeschool as well. This has been an interesting homeschool year. As we near the home stretch, I am evaluating what is and isn't working. The four oldest children have been taking college classes this year (the first year for my 15 year old), and for some it is going very well, which gives me lots of comfort. The youngest of those four did great last semester, but is hanging on by tooth and nail this semester. It is a good learning experience for all of us. My three oldest care a lot about pleasing people, which makes them very diligent students. This diligence makes up for the holes that there were in their education. The fourth student is a completely different person. If he isn't interested, it is very hard to motivate him, so I am having to be creative (all sorts of threats, and groundings, I might want to try some incentives as well:/) as I try to inspire him to excel in his classes. The college experience in high school, has been a good one overall. My third child will graduate from high school this spring just 1 credit short of his AA degree. This takes a lot of pressure off of our family as he pursues his future goals.



The three youngest children are having a great homeschool year. We have a couple of co-ops that provide fun project days, and science experiments, and this spring we joined a jr. high and high school P.E. class that meets at a beautiful camp in the foothills. This means that while my 13 year old son is playing sports with new friends, the youngest two and I are exploring a nearby creek and pond. We get to see animal tracks in the mud, follow exciting new trails, and rock hop by the creek. They love signing off new projects for their Wild Explorer badges while playing in the wild. It is a guaranteed nature day for us, and a really sweet opportunity for me to connect with the youngest two. Nature is the very best place for connection. 

When we are at home doing school, we are also reading lots of books that go along with our bird study this year. All the nature reading we are doing is paying off as our children learn to be more observant when they are outside. Just yesterday, my daughter was looking for ladybugs, and found a leaf full of butterfly eggs. Such an amazing discovery! She wouldn't even have recognized them if she hadn't read about it in a book.



Education is experimental in so many ways. What nets good grades, doesn't necessarily create students who are good problem solvers, and an imaginative student might have the mental resources to solve world problems, while lacking the diligence and moral character to follow through. Having parented for 22 years, read tons of books on the subject, and swung wildly in my parenting methods, I have seen some of the best and worst of several methods. As well, no two children are alike, so one parenting or schooling method might work entirely differently with different children. 

What I know is this; I really like my children. They are some of my favorite people to talk to, they try hard to honor God with their choices, and they are generally kind and hard working. They have ideas in their heads and they take steps towards making those ideas a reality. Although there are many things that we are still working on, and many opportunities to feel weary or discouraged, overall, this book and conversation heavy, but workbook light, method of homeschooling seems to be working. 

Some of our favorite nature resources this year;







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1/1/16

Comprehensive Goal Setting



Although I have read many books on goal setting, one of my favorite systems was well explained by missionary wife Colleen Adams at a women's meeting I went to. Thankfully my creative friend Rebecca, beautifully explains the whole system here, visit her page and you will find a very clear explanation of each area of goal setting. The short story is that, instead of trying to make A, B and C goals, or just a big list of general goals for the year, Colleen's method has you break down your goal setting into eight different areas. Also, instead of making goals for the whole year, these goals are meant to be for a shorter time period, such as three months.

However, even before you start defining your goals for the year or a season, it is important to have your basics, or essentials clearly defined. Although, we have long had a family vision statement, it is important to revisit it and pray for fresh vision, so that we aren't making goals without the guidance of the Holy Spirit that we long for. If you don't have a family purpose statement, then this free download from Tsh Oxenreider of The Art of Simple, could be super helpful for you.

Some of my essentials are;
God, and an active, listening relationship with Him.
My husband, and building a strong marriage.
My children, and giving them a solid spiritual and educational foundation, with all the love they deserve,
My home, and making it a life giving place.
My community; loving and encouraging my extended family and friends.
My ministry, and encouraging other moms.
My art, and continuing to improve my photography, food raising, and writing.
My businesses, and serving my market well to supplement our family income.
Missions, and being a part of helping families in crisis worldwide.



Last Year's Goals
(with the honest truth about progress)

1. Self Care
Exercise 5 days a week
 (better than the previous year, but overall inconsistent.)
Drink 6 glasses of water per day
 (improvement)

2. Spiritual Life
Daily Bible copy-work 
(this became a habit, yay!)
Spend first 30 minutes of the day in prayer and Bible study 
(this went pretty well, but I need to work on getting the children being more productive so I can have this time guilt free, or get up earlier)

3. Intellect/Emotions 
(for me right now, these are some goals with my kids)
Weekly nature walk and journaling
 (we did a lot more illustrating and journaling, but not enough nature journaling/observation)
Teach chore consistency with children 
(still working on this)


4. Relationships
Weekly date with my honey 
(we had some really sweet times together this year, and celebrated 25 years of marriage)
Work on eye contact with my children
 (major relationship breakthroughs with my middle children, the book, Hold On To Your Kids was very influential in this.)




5. Time Management
No phone/computer until priorities 1, 2 and 3 are done (super-fail)
Family Bible time by 8:30 a:m (here too)

6. Nest Management
Monthly deep cleaning 
(my house just got dirtier, as I got busier)
Library redo (tile, flooring, window)
(we did it, all but the window, and I love it)



7. Uniquely You
(This might mean weekly pedicures, or more time spent on self care, 
but those aren't my top priorities right now)

Weekly blog post (nope)
Improve photography 
(yes, and this lens is helping)



8. Financial Stewardship
Make a list of accounts (done)
Make some money (yes!)


Although, I didn't achieve total success in the goals that I set in 2015, having the goals, did help me gain consistency in some important areas.
This year, with the help of books like Essentialism, I am being even more prayerful about what my core values and goals should be. It is easy to get my plate so full that I end up frazzled. This is not what I want for myself or my family. Our dreaming and goal setting, can inspire our children to also have purpose; we don't need perfect execution, forward progress is what we are really looking for.





2016 Goals 


1. Self Care
Walk 2 miles, 5 days a week
Do a 21 day sugar fast

2. Spiritual Life
Memorize one verse each week.
Spend first 30 minutes of the day in prayer and Bible study.

3. Intellect/Emotions 
(for me right now, these are some goals with my kids)
Get my youngest reading fluently
Teach morning routine consistency to children.


4. Relationships
Weekly date with my honey.
Continue forging connection with my middle children.

5. Time Management
Family Bible time by 8:30 a:m.
No phone/computer until morning routine is done.

6. Nest Management
Simplify/organize my closet.
Grow more food.


7. Uniquely You
Write a book with my daughter.
Go to a writer/blogger conference.


8. Financial Stewardship
Increase my income. 
Save for a mission trip.


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